The wedding is coming along very well. It's fairly smooth when it's only Mike and me doing things. When the parents get involved it can get really painful. For some reason or another it is perceived that Mike and I have no idea what we're doing. This may be the first marriage for both of us, but it is not the first wedding- we've been to about 15 since we've been together and have a very solid idea of what we want out of ours and how we get it. If we don't know, we'll ask.
Unwanted advice is what happens when people plan a wedding. No surprise there at all. What does surprise me is the apparent lack of faith that we are competent adults. We know what and how much people drink at weddings. We know how to fit the number of people we want in the space we have. We know how much time things take. We know how a rehearsal is supposed to work. So on and so forth. So why are we being spoken to like we are idiots? Is it because we're planning it ourselves? Is it because we are doing this in a way very few people do this? Sometimes I regret going comparatively so "grass roots." I wonder if I went the conventional way that people would leave us alone. Probably not. But maybe it wouldn't be this. I can't stand being spoken to like I'm this idiot I'm not.